I think we're talking about the same thing but we both don't understand each other.
Simple drawing of the depths/focus:
So the things that are closest to your camera have to be blurred, the things that are furthest have to be blurred, and the things on the same level as the girl have to be in focus and thus sharp.
If this is NOT the case, something's wrong with my brain.
Edit: Look at this photo: (Source)
The grass in the front is blurred, the grass at fox level is sharp, the grass in the far back is blurred again.
That's what I wanted to tell you, nothing more
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